There is also nothing more terrifying than someone who is crazy and cruel enough to invoke and delight in your pain, confusion and misery, and who is also so CLEVER and CUNNING that they manage to convince everyone else that you are the crazy, cruel one.
This, in essence, is what a narcissist is: a terrifying, dangerous, crazy and cruel pathological liar and accomplished manipulator and exploiter who mimics, emulates, fakes and replicates with more conviction than you or I can tell the truth. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is like being in the darkest Kafka novel. You will end up doubting everything, starting with yourself, and the narcissist will use that self-doubt to worm their way deeper and deeper inside your psyche, tightening their poisonous tentacles around every precious component of your sanity. EVERY narcissist lies, because every narcissist LIVES a lie. EVERY narcissist is invested in a delusion which they protect and uphold at ALL COSTS. The further along the spectrum they are (i.e. the closer to pathological or malignant narcissism, or psychopathy), the more damage they will cause, and the less they will care. YOUR PAIN = the NARCISSIST'S PLEASURE.
"Their fear of facing guilt is more important than the feelings of those they hurt." (Source: Elephant Journal: How to recognise narcissistic abuse)
In the words of those who have survived any sort of a close relationship with one (and therefore suffered the worst betrayal imaginable), a narcissist is... *
... someone who demands you give up your everything in order to be their nothing
... a cold-blooded soul rapist
... someone who will brutalise your heart and soul because they have no heart and soul
... a weather vane that shifts to the winds of crazy-making
... an emotional vampire
... a cunning liar cleverly using charm and disguised manipulation to get what they want, regardless of how it will hurt you
... someone who gets mad at you for wearing a coat because they don't feel cold
... the sorriest excuse for a father (or mother, sister, brother, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend) I can think of and the single largest drain of positive energy I have ever known
... a person with no moral compass, empathy or conscience, who will do whatever it takes to manipulate people in order to gain power, money or control so that they can feel temporarily better about their bankrupt, empty lives
... Incapable of growth. The essence of life is growth... therefore the narcissistic personality is essentially dead
... A lost soul with no regard to anyone's needs, wants or feelings other than their own. They ruin lives and leave deep scars that can never be forgotten
... the homo sapien (NOT 'human') form of a black hole. They are incapable of feeling emotion although they are exceptionally good at mirroring others' emotions
... a person who is ruled and run by dark unseen forces which, in their extreme, are demonic in nature
... a deeply wounded person who deeply wounds those closest to them
... a miserable, satanic coward
... at the centre of most of the biggest issues in society today
(Many of the above quotes sourced from a post on the FaceBook page "Thrive After Abuse", on 27/4/2016)
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